Ex-cess My Life 04 DEC 2007

ChantelleOver the last while, I’ve been receiving phone calls every now and then from my ex (Liz), kind of just to keep me in the loop of the happenings of her life, and I guess, simply because she feels she can still talk to me (and wants to talk to me) – which kind of makes me feel good, so I don’t have too much of a problem with it at all. So although our lives have moved quite far apart, I still know how her little sisters are doing, that her dad is recovering at almost a superhuman rate of recovery, the state of her (now nonexistent) love life, how varsity and the rest of our buddies from Stellenbosch are holding out, holiday plans to Europe, etc.

Of course, I don’t keep these moments when Liz does make contact with me from Chantelle – that simply wouldn’t be right, and in fact, in my books at least, could be construed as cheating on the current love of my life. However, I am aware of the fact that these moments of contact do make Chantelle feel perhaps a little uneasy, and quite understandably so.

So I’m in a bit of a quandary I guess. I really do feel good because Liz still feels like she can/wants to talk to me, because, although things are over between us romantically, she can still make a really good friend, but on the other hand, I really don’t want to cause my liefie any undue stress or worry. As an extreme, I guess I could probably stop answering my phone, but then I might just miss one of those critically important phone calls from ABSA bank trying to sell me some or other new policy of theirs (the latest one was some or other education policy for my kids! Do some research first damnit!).

Ideally, I probably would like Chantelle to meet with Liz one day, just so that she can make up her own unbiased mind about her and see that she really shouldn’t have anything to worry about, but I’m guessing that probably won’t happen – this isn’t Jerry Springer you know :)

I don’t know, what do you think I should do with regards to this matter?

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South African software architect and developer at Touchwork. Husband to a cupcake baker and father to two little girls. I don't have time for myself any more.